I love the city of Houston. It’s got everything I’d ever need to live the fun and fab life I desire. Black business is steadily growing; just recently Black Enterprise hosted a summit here. Some celebs have also made the city their home, so I always have some type of red carpet event or mixer to attend, and I have plenty of family and friends here. So what’s the problem you ask? Well, the dating scene — see it would be cool if it were not for all the horror stories I hear about arranged marriages with foreign men.
I know that dating in 2017 is not the easiest for us girls, but I don’t foresee renting my wifely attributes as an option. Moreover, the stories I hear from my Houston associates about dating men from foreign countries all sound like scams. For the sake of illustration, here’s a tale of foreign foolery courtesy of a friend whom I’ll call “Jessica.”
Jessica relocated to Houston several years ago to get her career on the right path. Now, she will be the first to admit that she isn’t always the most focused individual, but hey, maybe this is why she’s always meeting foreign men with an agenda. Foreign Guy Number 1 was an alleged soccer agent, basketball scout, a mortician, and if I’m not mistaken some kind of insurance agent. He was also a financial counselor of some sort who said he could transform her credit score, and of course, he needed her social security number to do this… three years later she still can’t get an apartment in her name. Oh! And I have to mention that Jessica could never visit him at his house because he was African royalty who lived with his “aunt,” a Queen Mother. So as not to disrespect her Highness he never let women visit him at home. Notice I didn’t say spend the night; women could not even show up in his yard.
To date, Jessica has met a French guy, about three more African men (I don’t think she even nailed down the countries), and a Jamaican who all seem full of crap and on a mission to get paid. At least three of the men were married when she met them and claimed they were not in love with their American wives. However, these same men had the audacity to bring children into these love-starved marriages. I can only conclude that the kids are an extra layer of security blanket to obtain citizenship.
But Jessica isn’t the only woman I personally know who has gone through these ordeals with foreign men on a come up. My sister’s best friend married a foreigner whom she found living in her mom’s basement! I know I can’t just leave you hanging with that tidbit of tea so let me explain.
The guy put out an ad stating that he was coming to America–no pun intended — but rather than blatantly stating he was looking for love like Akeem did, his ad positioned him as a college student who could not afford housing. His future wife’s mom saw the ad and moved him into her basement. The daughter came home to visit mom one day and now she has a husband who still lives with her mother — not her. He claims that they have to take things slow before moving in together (they did get married after only knowing each other for a month, so it is possible the love is too new to cohabitate –sarcasm absolutely intended). Did I mention these newlyweds are somehow expecting a child?
Much like rompers, a gold digging epidemic has transferred over to men. But while I’m disgusted at the schemes these men are pulling, I’m also confused by the women who are falling for them. If foreign love is indeed the new hustle, I need for our sistahs to stop hustling backwards in their quest for love.
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